I LOVE YOU, BUT I DON'T WANT YOU

DILEMMAS OF ASSEXUALS INVOLVED IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP

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https://doi.org/10.35919/rbsh.v36.1311

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Asexuality, Love, Sex, Sexual offenses

Abstract

Asexuality is defined as the sexual orientation of individuals who do not feel sexual attraction towards another person, and which can have negative psychological effects. The aim of this study was to identify the psychological dilemmas and effects experienced by asexuals who have been involved in romantic relationships with sexual partners. This is a mixed study conducted with Brazilian asexuals from a virtual community. It was observed that of the 40 asexual participants, 28 reported a history of romantic involvement with sexual partners, of which 14 suffered sexual coercion by their partner and nine gave in to pressure, having sexual relations against their will. Female participants were 0.17 times more likely to suffer sexual coercion than male participants. The potential psychological vulnerability of asexuals and the inseparability of love and sex were identified, manifested by sex as a form of legitimization/proof of the feeling of love. Thus, it was found that the ideals of romantic love and the inseparability of love/sex harm the physical and psychological health of asexuals and compromise the quality of romantic relationships.

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Author Biographies

Jeanderson Soares Parente, Universidade Regional do Cariri

I am a nurse specializing in Teacher Training for Higher Education at the Faculty of Juazeiro do Norte (FJN) and a master's student with a scholarship from CAPES in the Postgraduate Program in Neuroscience and Cognitive Behavior at the Federal University of Paraíba (UFPB). I was a member of the Research and Extension Group on Sexuality, Gender, Sexual Diversity and Inclusion (GPESGDI) at the Regional University of Cariri (URCA) and have published several articles in the area. I am currently linked to the Laboratory of Memory and Cognition Studies (LEMCOG) and conduct research on chronobiology and neural mechanisms of episodic memory using animal models. Areas of interest: Cognitive Neuroscience and Behavior, Memory and Learning, Neuroscience and Education, Sexuality, Sexual Diversity and Gender.

Sáskya Jorgeanne Barros Bezerra, Universidade Regional do Cariri

Bachelor of Nursing from the Regional University of Cariri-(URCA) ORCID iD: 0000-0002-2917-4755https://orcid.org/0000-0002-2917-4755. Master in Nursing from the Academic Master's Course in Nursing at URCA (CMAE-URCA), with a dissertation entitled "CARDIOVASCULAR RISK FACTORS IN WOMEN SURVIVORS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN THE LIGHT OF THEORY" defended on 06/05/24. Area of ​​interest: Women's health in the context of gender-based violence. Linked to the Observatory of Violence and Human Rights of the Cariri Region since its creation in 2015. Linked to the Research Group on Sexuality, Gender, Sexual Diversity and Inclusion (2015). Technological Innovation Scholarship BIT- PIM 1 from Funcap of the Chief Scientist Program in the project "Tackling violence against women in the State of Ceará: Propositions and social technologies in public policies" of the State Secretariat for Women (SEM) of Ceará in partnership with UECE and URCA.

Felice Teles Lira dos Santos Moreira, Universidade Regional do Cariri

I am a Nurse, graduated from the Regional University of Cariri (URCA), post-graduated in Health System Auditing (Lato sensu) from São Camilo Educação and, Master in Nursing (URCA), from the Postgraduate Program in Nursing. Currently, I am a substitute professor of the Undergraduate Nursing course at URCA, composing the teaching staff of the subjects Child and Adolescent Health and Supervised Internship in Primary Care. I am part of the Research Group on Sexuality, Gender, Sexual Diversity and Inclusion (GPESGDI), researching issues related to sexuality, gender, violence, destructive behavior in health work and patient safety.

Ana Laís Pereira Castro, Universidade Regional do Cariri

Nursing student at the Regional University of Cariri URCA (2021-). Scholarship holder of the Tutorial Education Program - PET Nursing (2022-). Member of the Research Group on Nursing and Adult Health in a Hospital Environment - GPESAH (2023-). Member of the Academic League of Nursing Care in Adult Health in a Hospital Environment - LACESAH (2023-). Member of the Academic League for Study, Research and Extension on Environmental Health and Health Promotion - LISAPS (2022-). Volunteer extensionist for the child health project "Projeto Feliz" (2022-2022).

Maria Letícia de Oliveira Silva , Universidade Regional do Cariri

Nursing undergraduate student at the Regional University of Cariri (URCA). Scholarship holder of the Tutorial Education Program (PET). Volunteer member of the Research Group on Nursing and Adult Health in Hospital Environments (GPESAH), in the research line Quality and safety in nursing care for adult patients, volunteer member of the Academic League of Nursing Care in Adult Health in Hospital Environments (LACESAH). Volunteer monitor of the General Pathology discipline.

Grayce Alencar Albuquerque, Universidade Regional do Cariri

Nurse. Professor of the permanent staff of the Regional University of Cariri (URCA). PhD in Health Sciences from the Postgraduate Program of the ABC School of Medicine. Post-Doctorate from FIOCRUZ, Ceará. Leader of the Research Group on Gender, Sexuality, Sexual Diversity and Inclusion (GPESGDI). Coordinator of the Observatory of Violence and Human Rights of the Cariri region at URCA. Tutor of the Tutorial Education Program (PET) Nursing. Permanent professor of the Academic Master's Degree in Nursing and the Doctorate and Master's/Professional Doctorate in Family Health at RENASF. Vice-coordinator of the Master's/Professional Doctorate in Family Health at RENASF. Member of the Chief Scientist Program of the Secretariat for Women (SEM) of the State of Ceará, in partnership with UECE and URCA, developing the project "Addressing violence against women in the State of Ceará: Proposals and social technologies in public policies". Currently, she is developing research linked to Public Health, Health Promotion, Public Health and Nursing with a focus on cross-cutting themes such as sexuality, gender, race, sexual diversity, social inclusion, violence against women and vulnerable populations, drug use, risk behaviors, humanization in health and accessibility to health services.

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Parente, J. S., Bezerra, S. J. B., Moreira, F. T. L. dos S., Castro, A. L. P., Silva , M. L. de O., & Albuquerque, G. A. (2025). I LOVE YOU, BUT I DON’T WANT YOU: DILEMMAS OF ASSEXUALS INVOLVED IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP. Revista Brasileira De Sexualidade Humana, 36, 1311 . https://doi.org/10.35919/rbsh.v36.1311

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